You can’t save people who don’t want to be saved.
I have learned to throw life rafts, but they have to choose to take it.
You can not make them grab it.
You must be careful with whom you try to save because you may yourself drown with them.
This doesn’t mean don’t have compassion or empathy.
This means there is a possibility of becoming pathologically compassionate and empathetic. Many of us make the mistake of offering unsolicited advice or think we can solve other peoples problems.
The best analogy was that of a life guard.
Yes it is their duty to save someone who is drowning, however if is not their duty to drown with the person drowning.
Be careful who you try to save, you may not be equipped to resist them taking you down with them.
Jordan Peterson, clinical psychologist speaks on the subject.
Here is what to do instead.
Go out there and live your life to the fullest. Be the shining light and example and hope that, that in itself helps them.
That is all you are obligated to do.
This reminds me of the quote,
“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, and fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people will not feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It is not just in some of us; it is in everyone and as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give others permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.” – Marianne Williamson